This path leads to recovery, joy, and meaning in life

Published: Thu, 06/22/17

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​​​​​​​Thursday Update  06.22.17


Notes, quotes, and links from Mark Brouwer. I help spiritually minded people who want to make a difference with their lives but struggle with overwhelm, stress, addiction, and discouragement. This might help ...

1. Personal Update: I'm starting the Thriving Leader Blueprint 

I'm super excited to start a new program based on the work I've been doing over the past few years: The Thriving Leader Blueprint. I introduced this in a webinar I conducted several weeks ago.

My goal with the program -- and with the book that's coming out -- is this:

To help people connect more deeply to their purpose and mission,
so they can live it out with confidence and passion
in a way that helps others and also works for them.

We're all busy. Our lives are filled with responsibilities, obligations, distractions, and opportunities. Too often our responsibilities, obligations, and distractions get in the way of us making the most of opportunities to live out our purpose in life. Then we get stressed out and discouraged. I want to help with that. 

My goal is to start a new cohort in the Thriving Leader Blueprint soon. If you'd like to learn more about this opportunity, let me know.



2. Recent research shows that power damages the brain

Who knew? It turns out that power actually changes the brain -- and not in a good way. I have two resources for you. First, a great quote by Rebecca Solnit that explains why this happens, and then a link to a great article by Jerry Useem in The Atlantic that goes into more detail, and the science behind it.

“I have often run across men (and rarely, but not never, women) who have become so powerful in their lives that there is no one to tell them when they are cruel, wrong, foolish, absurd, repugnant. In the end there is no one else in their world, because when you are not willing to hear how others feel, what others need, when you do not care, you are not willing to acknowledge others’ existence. 

That’s how it’s lonely at the top. It is as if these petty tyrants live in a world without honest mirrors, without others, without gravity, and they are buffered from the consequences of their failures...

Equality keeps us honest. Our peers tell us who we are and how we are doing, providing that service in personal life that a free press does in a functioning society. Inequality creates liars and delusion. The powerless need to dissemble—that’s how slaves, servants, and women got the reputation of being liars—and the powerful grow stupid on the lies they require from their subordinates and on the lack of need to know about others who are nobody, who don’t count, who’ve been silenced or trained to please. 

This is why I always pair privilege with obliviousness; obliviousness is privilege’s form of deprivation. When you don’t hear others, you don’t imagine them, they become unreal, and you are left in the wasteland of a world with only yourself in it, and that surely makes you starving, though you know not for what, if you have ceased to imagine others exist in any true deep way that matters.” 
- Rebecca Solnit

Okay ... now on to the article in the Atlantic. Here's how it starts:

If power were a prescription drug, it would come with a long list of known side effects. It can intoxicate. It can corrupt. It can even make Henry Kissinger believe that he’s sexually magnetic. But can it cause brain damage?




3. FEATURE ARTICLE: The most important path is the spiritual path ... it leads to recovery, joy, and meaning

I've been enjoying and challenged by reading Paul Brunton lately. He was born in 1898, fought in WW1, and travelled the world in his spiritual search. I don't agree with all he writes, but there is great wisdom in much of it. What follows are a variety of quotes from a spiritual notebook he wrote towards the end of his life. He writes about what he calls the spiritual Quest ... turning to God in faith and experiencing the Holy Spirit in us.

Brunton wrote this mid-20th century, and I've kept the language as is, even though it uses male pronouns for "human beings." These are written in stand-alone paragraphs ... they're more like a collection of sayings than an extended train of thought. Feel free to skip around, and, as we say in recovery, "take what you like and leave the rest." ...

Who does not prefer joy to grief? The instinct is universal. There is a metaphysical basis for it. Individual beings derive their existence from a universal Being, whose nature is continually blissful [and loving]. This is dimly, briefly echoed in the satisfactions of earthly desires. The quest of spiritual fulfillment is really the search for a fuller and more lasting share in the Divine Peace, the true heaven which awaits us in the end.

The average person seeks to enjoy himself. Do not think that the truly spiritual man does not seek to enjoy himself too. The difference is that he does it in a better way, a wiser way.

The vision of the world and the understanding of life which a person receives from the lips or books of others will never be so true nor so real as that which he makes his own. What shall it profit a man if he hear a thousand lectures or read a thousand books but has not found the Spirit? The student must advance to the next step and seek to realize within his own experience that which is portrayed to him by his intellect. And this is possible only by his entry upon the spiritual quest.

With every day that passes, a man makes his silent declaration of faith in the way he spends it. It is a poor declaration that modern man makes when he brushes aside all thought of prayer and meditation as something he has no time for.

When a man comes to his real senses, he will recognize that he has only one problem: 'How can I come into awareness of, and oneness with, my true being?' For it is to lead him to this final question that other questions and problems have staged the road of his whole life. This answered, the way to answer all the other wills which beset him, be they physical or financial, intellectual, or familiar, will open up. Hence Jesus' statements: "Seek ye first the kingdom of heaven and all these things shall be added unto you," and "To him who has [spiritual understanding] shall be given [what he personally needs].'

He who lacks the capacity to worship something higher than himself, to revere something better than himself, is already inwardly dead before his body is outwardly dead.

So long as a man does not know the most important part of himself and the best part of his possessions, so long will he remain the blind creator of his own miseries and the duped plaything of his own trivialities.

There is no other way to true happiness, as distinct from the false kind, than to follow the path which the Higher Power has set for him. This is to preach a hard doctrine, but a true one.

So long as a man does not experience his real self, so long will he be unhappy. The possession of material things and the indulgence in material pleasures only alleviate and palliate this unhappiness, and that temporarily.

The ceaseless longing for personal happiness which exists in every human being is a right one, but is generally mistaken in the direction along which satisfaction is sought. For all outward objects and beings can yield only a transient and imperfect delight that can never be equivalent to the uninterrupted happiness of life [in right relationship to God].



4. Quote of the week: 

"People are always seeking a power, a power to overcome something or destroy something; and therefore they are not living in the awareness of God, because in the realization of the presence of God there is no need to overcome, to destroy, or to do anything".
- Joel S. Goldsmith

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