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equip people to serve God and others in a way that is both fruitful and sustainable. I do this through teaching, writing, and coaching. This newsletter is part of that work.
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1. Personal Update
2. FEATURE VIDEO: Dealing with Conflict when the Other Person Thinks it's ALL ON YOU
3. Quote of the Week
4. How to Share -- and Sign Up for this :-)
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In today's newsletter, I'm talking about relationships, and drawing from experience I've had counseling marriages in trouble. I created a specific approach for the people I worked with -- I call it the 90/10/9 approach. Since I've come back to church ministry work, I've found that it's applicable in church conflict situations as well.
For many of us, the greatest source of stress comes from relationships that aren't working. Sometimes we need to get out of those dysfunctional relationships. But sometimes, we're in relationships where we've made commitments, and it's not workable -- or moral -- to simply leave. What do we do then ... especially when the other person seems unwilling to own their own faults and help fix things?
I hope you find it helpful. Have a great week!
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- uncertainty about whether you're making a difference
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2. FEATURE VIDEO TEACHING: Trusting in God for Healing ... or "Magical Thinking?"
(run time: 14:39)
If you're in a conflict situation, you can make progress in working through it if the other person is willing to look at themselves and own up to their part. But what if they aren't? What if they think it's all your problem? What if they think it's all on you?
In this video I present the 90/10/9 approach -- where you place your focus on the only thing you can control ... yourself. I've seen amazing turnarounds in troubled marriages and other conflict situations when a person implements this approach. Let me know what you think.
"Every conflict we face in life is rich with positive and negative potential. It can be a source of inspiration, enlightenment, learning, transformation, and growth -- or rage, fear, shame, entrapment, and resistance. This is not up to our opponents, but to us, and our willingness to face and work through them."
- Kenneth Cloke
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I write and speak at events as director of Renew Resources. I also am leader and teacher at Bethel Church in Princeton, MN. If you're ever in the area, come join us on a Sunday morning! Places to find my writing:
The Recovery Journey
Check out my 90 Day program for starting (or renewing) your recovery from sexual addiction / compulsion called "The Recovery Journey". There's also a special program for the partners of addicts. Also check out my other Audio Product:
Read my latest book:
"Leaving Your Mark Without Losing Your
Mind"
This book focuses on the innate need we all have to make a difference with our lives ... and what gets in the way. Building a life of meaning and purpose is essential for our happiness, but many people get sidelined because of stress, overwhelm, and discouragement. This book will help you find strategies to overcome those challenges (and others).
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